That night my mum offered to have him, so I could go to my friend's home as she is also my PA for my tattoo business. I had done that in the past as I was confident enough in my mothering ability to entrust that care with my mum.
This doesn't even logically make sense. What has her mothering ability to do with entrusting her son to her mom? Nothing, really. This is aimed to disparage her mum, she was the one who could not make him stop crying, it's all her fault. We have to ask: is the mother not trustworthy? Is the an abusive history there?
When I have rang for taxis in the past, I have waited a long time. I just did not think, I just panicked and went to go and get my son from my mum’s house.
As you said, she implies she was going to get him, meaning taking him somewhere else. At that point her "panic" would have subsided, she could have stayed there to sober up and think more clearly.
This is all explanations on top of explanations. She pulls every trick she has, every explanation she can think of, from being "a good mother" to prior abuse, anxiety and PTSD.
The domestic violence situations she describes, at least both adults were the perpetrators, I would go as far to say that she was the primary instigator.
When I was assaulted during my relationship, my boy was dropped and it made him cry and I now have separation anxiety.
It is still MY relationship. She psychologically still owns it. Is it still ongoing?
In total, this a very manipulative person who probably has a history of being able to talk herself out of situations and never assume responsibility for her actions. I would look for chronic alcohol and maybe substance abuse, habitual lying, being the victim and always blaming others.
These are great spots. Someone else has also suggested there maybe alcohol problems in this person’s life.
The relationship with the mother is interesting. I found it odd she felt the need to explain why it was ok to leave her child with her mother in the same way we would explain why we felt it was ok to leave a child with a virtual stranger. For most people, leaving your child in the care of your mother, who has cared for you for many years, would be the most natural thing in the world.
I saw so much deception (and as you say attempted manipulation) in the words but nothing that suggested the phone call didn’t happen. There was deception around the contents of the call. My most plausible scenario was that mum called to say something along the lines of “your son is being awful, come and get him” or “where the hell are you, you were supposed to get him two hours ago”.
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I agree, A phone call probably did happen, but not in the way she portrayed it. We see the subtle blaming of the mother for something the mother failed to do - namely leaving her in peace drinking with her buddies. Even that she tries to spin into HER being a good mother. Her whole storyline is woven around the "good mother principle".
She has no insight how "reasonable" people would have reacted (they wouldn't have gotten into this mess...). They would have shown regret, apologized, and maybe have gotten off with a lesser consequence. Her reaction is heaping excuse on excuse, it's a virtual excuse-tornado.
I am scared for the safety of this child, which has witnessed a lot of fights, abuse, and experienced abuse himself already.
That night my mum offered to have him, so I could go to my friend's home as she is also my PA for my tattoo business. I had done that in the past as I was confident enough in my mothering ability to entrust that care with my mum.
This doesn't even logically make sense. What has her mothering ability to do with entrusting her son to her mom? Nothing, really. This is aimed to disparage her mum, she was the one who could not make him stop crying, it's all her fault. We have to ask: is the mother not trustworthy? Is the an abusive history there?
When I have rang for taxis in the past, I have waited a long time. I just did not think, I just panicked and went to go and get my son from my mum’s house.
As you said, she implies she was going to get him, meaning taking him somewhere else. At that point her "panic" would have subsided, she could have stayed there to sober up and think more clearly.
This is all explanations on top of explanations. She pulls every trick she has, every explanation she can think of, from being "a good mother" to prior abuse, anxiety and PTSD.
The domestic violence situations she describes, at least both adults were the perpetrators, I would go as far to say that she was the primary instigator.
When I was assaulted during my relationship, my boy was dropped and it made him cry and I now have separation anxiety.
It is still MY relationship. She psychologically still owns it. Is it still ongoing?
In total, this a very manipulative person who probably has a history of being able to talk herself out of situations and never assume responsibility for her actions. I would look for chronic alcohol and maybe substance abuse, habitual lying, being the victim and always blaming others.
These are great spots. Someone else has also suggested there maybe alcohol problems in this person’s life.
The relationship with the mother is interesting. I found it odd she felt the need to explain why it was ok to leave her child with her mother in the same way we would explain why we felt it was ok to leave a child with a virtual stranger. For most people, leaving your child in the care of your mother, who has cared for you for many years, would be the most natural thing in the world.
I saw so much deception (and as you say attempted manipulation) in the words but nothing that suggested the phone call didn’t happen. There was deception around the contents of the call. My most plausible scenario was that mum called to say something along the lines of “your son is being awful, come and get him” or “where the hell are you, you were supposed to get him two hours ago”.
Thanks as always for the insightful comment.
I agree, A phone call probably did happen, but not in the way she portrayed it. We see the subtle blaming of the mother for something the mother failed to do - namely leaving her in peace drinking with her buddies. Even that she tries to spin into HER being a good mother. Her whole storyline is woven around the "good mother principle".
She has no insight how "reasonable" people would have reacted (they wouldn't have gotten into this mess...). They would have shown regret, apologized, and maybe have gotten off with a lesser consequence. Her reaction is heaping excuse on excuse, it's a virtual excuse-tornado.
I am scared for the safety of this child, which has witnessed a lot of fights, abuse, and experienced abuse himself already.
Getting Katie Price vibes.